Ntando Duma Draws the Line at Single Fathers in Explosive Interview: “I Don’t Prefer It”

• Ntando Duma recently revealed her relationship deal-breaker: dating single fathers
• The actress opened up in an interview that she wouldn't have given a man the time of day if he had a child, and her comments struck a nerve
• Social media debated Duma's statements, with many criticising her for allegedly humiliating her husband

Ntando Duma opened up about never wanting to date a single father. The Shaka iLembe actress spoke on The L-Tido Podcast on 20 August 2025, saying she wouldn't give a single dad the time of day:

"I've never dated a man with a child, and I had a child. It's a preference thing, it's not about being selfish. I don't prefer it, and that's that, so I won't go for those people. There are too many people in the world, so I didn't want someone with a child, not because I hated their children or wouldn't know what to do with them."

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This comes after Duma welcomed her second child, and her first with husband Una Rams.

She previously dated DJ/ producer Junior De Rocka, with whom she had her first child, Sbahle.

Once a single parent herself, Duma said she had her reasons not to settle down or even date another single parent:

"It was just a preference thing, and I have a right to have preferences on who I want to date. The same way women say they want a man with a car, same for me; I would have never dated a man with a child, for my own reasons."

As someone who lives a relatively private life, having gone through an private wedding and pregnancy, social media users were stunned by the actress's explosive statements, many of whom went online to criticise her.

Here's how social media users reacted to Ntando Duma's statements

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Online users accused Ntando Duma of humiliating her husband. Many claimed that she expected him to accept her daughter, whereas she wouldn't have looked his way should he have been in the same situation.

Others worried about the strain her comments would put on her marriage.

C_Blez_ said:

"She wants her partner to accept the chores and labours of love that she would never accept herself. People need to realise that that's not a preference; this, instead, is just a double standard."

UKwaneleZN wrote:

"If you are a simp, a woman will make sure the whole world knows!"

MelodicVibz was shocked:

"How in the world does she think saying this is appropriate?"

DavidNkgase posted:

"Ntando Duma embarrassed her husband shame, and it's not even funny."

SimplyTops added:

"What Ntando Duma said is wrong, and I’d find it wrong even if a man said it. It’s wrong not because she’s a woman with a child who should be 'grateful' that a man without children married her, but it contributes to a harmful stigma that affects women like her more."

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StarringMohau commented:

"Nah, Ntando Duma hates her husband."

Meanwhile, others supported Ntando:

YourBoy_TK said:

"She's allowed to have a preference, though."

_Hunaay wrote:

"Lol, I kinda get her. She might not have used the right words, but I get it."

NEarthchild asked:

"But men say and actually practise this all the time, why can't she do it?"

NtMihlali supported Ntando Duma:

"Ntando Duma is doing EXACTLY what men do. Go, girl, this part of womanhood is proud. Y'all stay preaching that we shouldn't extend grace to men. Ntando extended nothing"

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In more Ntando Duma updates, Briefly News shared online reactions to the actress finally addressing claims that she had a surrogate.

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Source: Briefly News