“Relax Auntie”: Woman Complains About Old Aunties Making Ugly Remarks About Youth’s Appearance

• A woman called out older, coloured aunties for making rude and disgusting comments about young people's physical appearance
• She accused these aunties of being the biggest bullies to their own children and others
• Social media users agreed with her message, with many sharing their own experiences of harsh treatment
• Briefly News spoke to psychological expert Jayshri Rangasamy regarding self-esteem issues in the youth and how parents can change, helping boost their children's confidence

A passionate video calling out older women for their harsh treatment of young people has sparked important conversations about how adults speak to children.

Content creator @WAKE US UP In The Hood shared the emotional rant of a young woman from Johannesburg on 9th July with the simple caption:

"Relax auntie."

In her powerful message, the woman specifically targeted older coloured aunties who she says always have the ugliest and rudest remarks to make about young people. She questioned why these women feel the need to comment negatively on children's physical appearance, including their acne, crooked teeth, and personal style, when it's not even their own child they're criticising.

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The woman highlighted how these same aunties often ridicule their own children as well, calling them fat in front of friends and wondering why their kids have such low self-esteem. She pointed out that these adults become their children's biggest bullies, then act surprised when their kids don't want to spend time with them or seem antisocial.

Her frustration was clear as she suggested they find healthier outlets like going to therapy or taking pottery classes instead of meddling in young people's lives with ugly comments.

Social media supports the message

The video resonated with many viewers who shared their own experiences:

@Shanaaz Abrahams agreed:

"Girl is not lying. 👏👏👏"

@Kyle Carrim warned:

"Any aunty that is not family will hear how I can swear an older person."

@Faried Mohamed noted:

"True for some, but not all aunties."

@Nadia Abrahams related:

"I was just thinking the same thing."

@Arjan Singh reflected:

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"Yep understand we come from trauma our parents come from trauma we pray our children do better with our grandkids the will break the cycle. Everything you mentioned is 💯 true"

@Caren Cdg George shared:

"Preach!!!!!! I'm 33 and I still get those comments, not from people I don't know but the Aunties!!!"

@Celeste Samsodien defended:

"This is why we have character! It made us strong to handle anything that comes our way."

How words affect children's development

According to Generation Mindful, parents' words have incredible power to shape their children's futures and brain development. Research shows that the language we use around children can literally implant ideas into their minds, with the power to either build up or tear down their confidence.

Studies reveal that when children absorb negative messages about themselves, they often sink to that level instead of reaching their potential. Scientific research proves that negative words increase stress and anxiety-inducing hormones in the brain, while positive words can heal and change a child's self-talk for life.

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Dr. Daniel Siegel explains that what others believe about children shapes how they see themselves and behave. When adults use negative labels like "lazy" or "spoiled," they're literally limiting children's potential and affecting their biology across great distances through the power of language.

Briefly News spoke to psychological expert Jayshri Rangasamy regarding self-esteem issues in the youth and how parents can change, helping boost their children's confidence. She stated:

"Parents can boost their child's confidence by consistently offering encouragement, showing genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings, and celebrating their efforts rather than just outcomes. Creating a safe and supportive environment where mistakes are seen as learning opportunities helps children develop resilience and self-belief."

"Actively listening, setting realistic expectations, and modelling confident behaviour also play key roles. When parents validate their child’s emotions and empower them to make choices, it fosters a sense of autonomy and self-worth that strengthens confidence over time."

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Source: Briefly News